Finding a Way Back or Moving Forward?

Life is a journey filled with connections—some we are born into, and others we build along the way. Our first relationships come from family, but as we grow, we create bonds with friends from school, work, or even through fate. Some of these relationships last a lifetime, while others fade away, sometimes painfully.

One of the most beautiful things about life is meeting someone who was once a stranger and forming a deep connection—a “soul sister” or a “brother from another mother.” As magical as friendships can be, they can also bring heartache when they fall apart. Whether due to misunderstandings, betrayal, or simply growing apart, the pain of losing a close connection is real.

On this weeks podcast episode, Djen and Shilz opened up about relationships they’ve had to walk away from due to the other person’s lack of accountability. Lowkey their conversation felt like therapy, touching on healing, forgiveness, and the difficult question: Should we ever go back? It made me reflect on my own relationships—both the ones I may have hurt and the ones that hurt me. I found myself wondering: Is there a way back? And even if there is, should I take it?… If I’m honest I found no concrete answers within me.

What I do know is that we live in a generation that is quick to cancel people, but real life isn’t that black and white. Sometimes, a friendship is worth fighting for. Other times, walking away is the best thing you can do. The key is ensuring that any reconciliation comes with genuine accountability and this matches what you need to move on, otherwise, you might just be welcoming back the same fire that once burned you!

3 Ways to Mend a Broken Friendship

Have an Honest Conversation – Reach out, express how you feel, and truly listen to their perspective. Healing starts with understanding.

Take Accountability – Own up to your part in the fallout and expect the same from them. Rebuilding trust is a two-way effort.

Rebuild Slowly & Set Boundaries – Even if you reconcile, things won’t go back to normal overnight. Take it step by step and ensure past mistakes aren’t repeated.

3 Ways to Move Forward Instead

Accept That Some Friendships Are Seasonal – Not everyone is meant to stay forever. Appreciate what the friendship taught you and let go with gratitude.

Forgive Without Reconnecting – Forgiveness isn’t for them—it’s for your own peace. Let go of resentment, even if you don’t let them back

Make Space for New Connections – Letting go creates room for healthier friendships. Surround yourself with people who align with the person you’re becoming.

So, where do you stand? Is there someone you want to find your way back to, or is it time to finally move forward? Tune in to this week’s CML episode and get into this serious but needed conversation with Shilz and Djen!

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